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Friday, January 20, 2017

Embrace your flaws


“Once you learn to accept your flaws, no one can use them against you!”


We live in a society where everyone expects perfection, it’s so difficult to accept who you truly are and come to terms that no one is perfect. Growing up I’ve never truly accepted who I was. There was always something I wasn’t happy with; my weight, my skin, my hair you name it. It scares me so much that I’m bringing up my daughter in a world that revolves around how someone looks. I just hope that she never doubts how beautiful she is.  

This is probably one of the hardest posts I’ve written. It’s no secret that I’m not comfortable in my own skin, especially after having Emma. I really struggle with the fact I’m no longer that size 10 teenage girl my husband fell in love with. For so long I have questioned how he can love me, if I don’t love myself. What does he see that I no longer see? The fact is that neither of us are the same person we were 9 years ago when we first started dating. But when I look at him I see a future and I still see the person I fell in love with all those years ago, if anything I love him so much more. We have shared so many precious moments and shaped each other into the people we are today.  

(This photo is heavily photoshopped I have stretch marks covering my whole

I swapped my skinny jeans for maternity leggings.
My high heels for flats.
A flat tummy for a mummy tummy covered in tiger strips (stretch marks)

This was the change that has probably affected me the most in my life. You see me and my husband come from a family that is obsessed with weight and looks. I was expecting to just “bounce” back. Walk out of the hospital in my size 12 jeans, when that didn’t happen I didn’t expect it. I haven’t for the past two years. Instead I’ve had crash diet after crash diet only to find myself comfort eating with a chocolate cake and shitty T.V.

I promised myself that 2017 was the year I’d learn to love myself again with every flaw. You see flaws are just flaws, they make us who we are they make us different and special in our own little way. 


1.      You deserve love.
I’m a strong believer you have to fall in love with yourself first. Once you love yourself you become indestructible.

2.      Somethings you can’t control.
In life there are some things that are beyond your control, stop stressing about them and learn just to embrace it. For me stretch marks always bring me down, I seriously hate my stomach. But I’m slowly coming to terms they aren’t going anywhere. They tell a story of their own and to be honest if I was to do it all again I would. Emma is so worth every single scar.

3.      Other people love that flaw you hate.
When someone compliments you believe them. I always struggle to believe people and think they are just saying it. But the truth is 99% of the time they aren’t and they are being honest. Just because you hate it, doesn’t mean everyone does.

4.      It’s okay to be different.
It’s what makes you, you. Imagine a world where we all look the same. Same nose, eyes, ears. This is what makes you who you are.

5.      No one is perfect.
There is nothing no such thing as perfection. No one is perfect, that person you think is has their own flaws they are working on.

I’ve still got a long way to go, I believe those 5 points are a good place to start. If something is making you so unhappy change it. No one is in control of your happiness. The sooner you realise that only you can change the way you think towards yourself.  Remember you are beautiful.

xxx




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  1. Accepting yourself is so difficult - I've tried to stop caring what others think so much and have found that when I don't care what others think I care a lot less too! Remember what I said on Instagram though - your flaws are beauty in someone else's eyes :) xx

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  2. Amazing post lovely! I struggle with being happy in myself and find myself always try to improve so many different things! Ive really been working on accepting me for who I am this last year, why should we go through life trying to change? We only get one shot so why not accept who we are and be the best version of us we can? My daughter is 7 now and is so impressionable, I like you, am terrified of her having to grow up questioning herself. The most attractive people to me are those who are comfortable in their own skin and that's everything I want for her! We are all beautiful in our own ways, spots, stretch marks and all! Xx

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    1. Bethany - https://happiinmyskin.blogspot.co.uk/

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    2. I think when we have children especially a girl it makes us question who we want them to be when they grow up. I for one know I want Emma to be the most confident person she could be and not for a second doubt herself. I think the environment you grow up in shapes you into the person we are. xx

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  3. Such a good post! Everyone is suffering with all these problems and its so important to love yourself!

    Katie | http://silverglowx.com

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    1. Self love is so important it makes us unbreakable xx

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  4. Such an inspirational post, Tania! I for one think that you are a gorgeous woman who has so much to offer the world! Let nobody tell you otherwise! Your smile in your maternity picture is absolutely stunning, and it's obvious from that that your husband worships you! I completely agree, it's ok to be different and in fact, being different should be encouraged! 2017 will be your year! πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

    Abbey ✨ www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  5. Tania, you're beautiful no matter what you look like and what you wear. I know thats easy for me to say and harder for you to believe it but you truly are. I love this post, its one step closer to being much more comfortable with who you are and your future. It's almost like a sign of acceptance, and courage. You're so strong and you've come so far. 2017 will definitely bring good to you. Lots of love!!! Xxxx

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    1. Thank you Debra!
      Being surrounded by you amazing girls has helped so much! xx

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  6. This is a super inspirational post, you're so beautiful! You look so happy in your maternity post, and I hope you learn to love yourself this year and achieve your goal πŸ’–

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    1. It was the happiest I've ever been about myself because for once I knew I was doing and creating something amazing xx

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  7. Be proud of those tiger stripes! (: I always love hearing that just because it sounds more powerful than just saying stretch marks. I mean, how dare people grow! (: There is so much you can't always control and some people will always just be downers so I wish you luck in loving all your flaws this years. You can do it!

    Single Vegas Girl
    http://singlevegasgirl.blogspot.com/

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    1. I came across "tiger stripes" when I was talking to a bunch of amazing ladies when I had Emma just sounded nicer then stretch marks. Thank you xx

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  8. I love this post, its so true though acceptance of ourselves is hard especially when our bodies change. I am so quick to compliment people but always criticise myself, seems strange when I think about it. Everyone is beautiful in their own way xxxxxxxx

    lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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    1. Think we should all start learning to accept compliments. Your a beautiful lady xx

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  9. Love this post!! You look gorgeous by the way :)

    xx Sofia | SOFIAADOT

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  10. Love this post! It really is hard to embrace your flaws and love yourself for them, but accepting them is the first step. You look beautiful huni.

    Steph xx

    Steph's World | Lifestyle Blog | www.stephsworld.com

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    1. Thank you!
      It's so hard but I believe it's a step in the right direction xx

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  11. I knew that I would love this post just by the title!! Amazing! And omg your pic is freakin BEAUTIFUL!!

    Xxx MoreSpoons.com

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  12. This is such a beautiful post as are you! I definitely think that wanting to improve yourself for yourself is a good thing but equally you have to accept yourself for who you are. Embracing your flaws is the first step to becoming the best version of yourself.

    Sian x
    http://theenglisheverygirl.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I'm a strong believer in shaping yourself into the best version you can be and part of that is learning to accept who you are xx

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  13. Lovely post. It's definitely a long and rocky journey to embracing your flaws but the moment you're able to do so, it's an amazing feeling :)

    www.lovefrommaira.co.uk

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    1. I'm sure it is. But it'll be so worth it in the end xx

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  14. Loved this post. Embracing your flaws is an amazing feeling. It may take time to get there but 100% worth it when you do. You are beautiful inside & out. I really enjoyed this post. ❤
    Rachel | www.rachelxblog.com

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    1. Thank you hun!
      Yeah that's what I keep going for, I know once I'm there it'll be so worth it xx

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